thatdiabolicalfeminist:

You can tell them they don’t know what they’re talking about.

1. Dating one person does not erase your attraction to other genders. That’s ridiculous. When a gay or het person dates someone else, do they stop being attracted to a whole gender and define their orientation based only on the single person they’re currently dating? No. Why do they expect you to?
   
   
2. Orientation is about attraction, not about dating history.
   
   
3. Not having dated someone of a gender you’re attracted to doesn’t erase your attraction to them. (Just like people can know they’re gay or het even if they’ve never dated.)
   
   
4. It’s super weird to tell you that a history of dating trans people is what makes you pan instead of bi.
   
   First of all, bi, straight, and gay people can all date trans people, because trans people can be men or women.
   
   Second of all, even if they mean specifically nonbinary  people – pan doesn’t mean “has dated someone of every conceivable gender”, it means “attracted to people of every gender” or “attracted to people without gender being a factor.”
   
   Bi doesn’t mean “has dated cis men and cis women” - it means “attracted to two or more genders”. Many people call themselves pan as the TYPE of bi they are.
   
   
5. It’s really shitty to think you know someone else’s orientation better than they do. Orientation is and should be self-defined, based on your own experiences with attraction. People who try to correct you about who you’re attracted to are being really rude and need to learn some boundaries.

tl;dr: tell them to shut up, tell them they’re full of shit, or just avoid them, because they’re being super rude to you and you deserve respect.